Inspired Cake Eating….

I had the pleasure on Friday morning, on the back of an incredibly busy week, of venturing off to the most loveliest Cake Shop in Chinnor, Oxfordshire.

I suppose it could be described as a Coffee Shop or a Tea Room but the cakes adorned themselves all over the counter begging with me to taste them so I’m sticking with Cake Shop. After making a deal with the Universe about eating less later, my taste buds tormented themselves during the decision making process between the achingly, pleasurable Passion Cake, draped in a soft cream and the coconut fudge affair that appeared to go squidgy just upon looking at it.


Chocolate fudgy gorgeousness won….I am in Lotte’s Kitchen! And I am here amidst this glory because she has donated her most scrummy Cookbook ever, Lotte’s Country Kitchen, as a little prize. Anyone who books a ticket on Monday 12th September for the rather impressive Conference on Thursday (this week!!!) will be entered into a prizedraw to win a copy of this book.

So get booking, start cooking and see you on Thursday!


Are You Part of The Bigger Picture?

It would be lie a to say that organising an event such as a Conference isn’t hard work. It’s the hardest work! It’s frustrating, it’s filled with a hundred things you’ve never thought of before (having never organised a Conference), it’s late nights, lots of pleading, creative thinking and continuous motivation. And out of all that what do we get? We get personal growth, professional growth, professional development, free (ahem) training, stronger allegiances with local businesses, more business relationships, endless learning opportunities. Who wouldn’t want all of that out of a job?

One of the most exciting things about putting together a conference has to be working together with a myriad of different businesses. Big ones, new ones, small ones and established ones, so many have joined in and been part of the bigger picture.

That is essentially what Networking is about in a nutshell. Getting stuck in, seeing the bigger picture, looking for collaborative opportunities and working together supporting people in business, supporting people in business in your local areas.

Believe You Can is about being part of the bigger picture. It’s about being part of something happening in business, for women in business, that puts you and your business on the map. We’re proud, very proud, to be part of this bigger picture and you never know, we might even do it all again next year! In the meantime, see you on the 15th September 2011.

New to Networking?

There is little else more daunting than setting up your own business even if you are not quite fully aware of this at the time of idea conception! It’s your first year and you probably aren’t aware of this right now, but you are about to embark upon one of the most learning experiences of your life. You are now going to become a PR and Marketing Team, Human Resources Department, Payroll, Web Design, Book Keeper, Copywriter, to name a few (and that probably doesn’t include the day job!) You are also about to be exposed to several ‘experts’ who know exactly what you need to do, how you need to do it and what you need to spend. They are likely to have the perfect service/product/knowledge for your business which will catapult you to the top. Oh yes….I’m afraid so.

For the mothers out there, it’s rather like when you’re pregnant with your first child and thereafter. Everyone else knows what’s best and everyone has an opinion. My most vivid memories were being told that I fed my baby to much and I was preventing him from sleeping and I also recall a seemingly endless stream of elderly women coming up to me while I was out shopping because my baby wasn’t wearing socks. I was infuriated! Did they honestly think I hadn’t put socks on his feet? Did they think I was purposefully being cruel? Did they not know I had put socks on him fifteen times already in the last hour just to watch him take them off? How do I stop over feeding my starving baby (who looked 3 months at birth?). The ‘experts’ are everywhere.

When someone new comes to one of our meetings, and we get lots of new people, many who have never been to another Networking Group before, we are aware of all of these factors. Any initial advice given, would probably go a little like this….

  1. Go to as many Networking Groups as money, time and your patience will allow. Find your space, stay there and commit to that group and be consistent. If you don’t know what your ‘space’ is yet, you soon will. It’s the place you feel most comfortable, most safe and most able to be yourself (in a nutshell).
  2. Don’t rush into any decisions about anything you need until you are in your ‘space’ and you trust the people around you. I would be very rich indeed if I had a penny for everything I have had pitched at me to purchase as a ‘need’ since I started running a business four years ago. We’re all different and so are our businesses. When you are looking for services, use people who are recommended. Not just once or by one person but get to know people who are used by lots of people in your Network. Be a smooth operator and watch people and how others interact with them. Are they consistent? Do they turn up regularly? Do they do a lot of business in the local area? We all have reputations, so generally people will protect them fiercely by providing a good service and rectifying any mistakes quickly and giving excellent customer service. I would also say as a general rule, avoid ‘experts’ and go for people who are experienced in their field and are in a constant state of learning themselves so they are up to date on their particular business knowledge.
  3. Join on-line networking groups like Facebook Business Groups. In a good one, you will be looked after, trusting relationships will develop and you too will benefit from being recommended. Banbury Business Networking is a fine example of a localised Facebook Business Group really working for the benefit of its members.
  4. People are people and they are no different to deal with than when you were employed. Human beings will always have opinions about other human beings. Meet someone for yourself and make your own judgement call. After all, we’re all different and one person’s hell is another person’s heaven.
  5. Finally, try and enjoy yourself and understand that everything will be in a constant state of change. The baby will sleep again. You will sleep again. As you grow, you’ll end up getting rid of some of the many departments you’ve become and you’ll be happy to have virtual PA’s, Book Keepers, Payroll. Being a person who finds delegating quite difficult, I never thought I’d have a Virtual PA,  but I do.  I’ve not met anyone yet who doesn’t say that their business evolved in completely different ways than they had thought it would. I never meant to set up a Networking Group with a friend….but I did!

For more information about our Groups, our Development Days and our Conference in September please have a peruse through our website or give us a call on 0844 870 9287


Charity Calendar (More Unclothed than Naked)!

While the Summer months brought most of us a time to relax, refresh and rethink, it brought us, at Networking Women, an opportunity to bring together a group of Business Women to put together a project. Using Networking and Social Media, we wanted to demonstrate the power of communication, relationships and a collective desire to make a difference. We wanted to celebrate women, as Business owners, but also as all that we are! Through doing this, the aim of our project is to make lots of money for charity, to have brought women together who wouldn’t have ordinarily made contact, to highlighted the different businesses that we all run and allow us all to shine as individuals, personally and professionaly.

We had a lovely day and the people that came on board for the project were all exactly the right people. We had the most amazing Hair and Beauty contact, Kathryn Danzy, that I fell upon while tweeting who then took it upon herself to find us a lovely Hair and Make Up specialist who worked without a pause to bring out the best in us. We had a very patient photographer who took pictures of us through the eyes of a woman and then artistically and carefully brought those images to life. The location we had our photo shoot in was a classic and sophisticated venue which kept the images classy and worthy. They even provided us with a member of their staff for the day to look after our every whim (including the bottle of champagne during the mid afternoon slump!)  And finally, the work put in to getting us to the final stages by our designer allowing the product to arrive safely at the printers.   The print run is set to commence on Monday.

The Charity is Breast Cancer Haven.

The Launch, which includes the Calendar, is at Heythrop Park on the 7th October and tickets can be bought here.

The Calendar can be bought here.

The possibilities are endless. Anything is possible! Together we can achieve whatever we set our minds to…

Top tips for an attention-grabbing introduction

Most networking events give you the opportunity to promote yourself to the rest of the group – and Networking Women is no different. At each meeting everyone has a minute to talk about their business and what they offer. Even for those with a lot of networking experience it can be daunting – so here are some tips to help you make the most of your minute in the spotlight.

  1. Sell yourself, not your business. It’s often hard to get across what you do in just one minute. Instead, think about promoting yourself and aim to get people interested and wanting to find out more about you. You can tell them all about your business in the resulting conversations!
  2. Ask a question. People don’t always want to know about what you do but what you can do for them. Opening your “pitch” with a question instantly gets people thinking about their own challenges and how you could help them.
  3. Use props. At a busy meeting, it’s a challenge to stand out from the crowd. Using a suitable prop – maybe a glove puppet, a hat or a magic wand – makes you more memorable.
  4. Show off your wares! Not relevant to everyone, I know, but if you sell a product, show it! One guest at Networking Women Witney sells jewellery and accessories, so she introduced herself by showing off an armful of brightly colourful handbags – and it got people’s attention!
  5. Rehearse – but don’t over-rehearse. Have an idea of what you want to say, and practice it a couple of times – but no more. If you over-rehearse it can come across stilted and lacking any passion. Same goes for reading from a script – instead stick to bullet points. They will keep you on target but allow you room to be enthusiastic!
  6. Keep it short. At Networking Women you get about a minute, which is plenty of time to make an impact. Keeping it short and sweet means people listen to what you have to say. Ramble on at your peril – and watch those eyes glaze over!
  7. Smile! However nervous you are, smiling relaxes the muscles in your face, makes your voice sound cheerful and gives the impression of confidence, even if you’re not!

Give these tips a go at your next networking event. We’d love to hear what difference it makes!

The third Networking Women Witney meeting!

Our third Networking Women Witney meeting was incredible! There was a real energy in the room as women from a diverse range of businesses chatted over coffee and networked over brunch. We also had a very useful presentation from Debbie Austin of Wellers, who gave us lots of tips to keep our accounts under control (and our money out of the hands of the taxman!)

Networking Women Witney really feels like it’s going places and that’s down to you, the members.  The next Networking Women Witney meeting is on Tuesday 27th July and we hope you’ll join us!

Finally, we were delighted that Jane van Velsen, The Right Writer, came along as she took some fabulous photos. I’m going to stop now and let the pictures tell the rest of the story!

And REALLY finally, here’s a little video clip that Jane took of the meeting!

"So what do you do?"

One of the questions you’re often asked at networking events is “What do you do?”

I used to say “I’m an alternative health practitioner” but recently at Networking Women meetings I’ve been saying something like “I help women recover from the symptoms of stress, anxiety and exhaustion.” I’ve noticed it really makes a difference to how people react to me … instead of their eyes glazing over with boredom or confusion, they start asking me questions – how do I do it, who can I help, can I help them with their stress please?!

That got me thinking, and I realised that introductions are like most forms of marketing really, aren’t they? In those few seconds when you first meet someone, you’re marketing yourself – so instead of selling the features of your business, promote the benefits it offers to your potential customers!

It’s common sense when you think about it, and we can all apply this to ourselves, whatever our business. For example, an accountant helps save you taxes. A life coach helps you fulfill your dreams; a sales expert helps you double your turnover; a car mechanic helps you stay on the road. One of the best introductions I ever heard was a guy who said, “I can make your reputation soar!” Who’s not going to want to find out more with a hook like that?!

So have a think about your business and the benefits you give your clients – and then turn those benefits into a one line introduction. And next time you’re asked, “What do you do?” give people a good reason to want to find out more!

Business Networking – what’s that all about?

Business networking. That’s where you put on a suit, visit a room of strangers armed with a ton of business cards, and flog them your services, isn’t it? Scary stuff!

If that’s what comes to mind when someone mentions business networking, then either you’ve been doing it all wrong, or going to the wrong places! In fact, networking is not about sales at all, not in the beginning anyway. It’s about creating a network around your business, and building relationships with other business owners. It’s about getting to know people, finding out about them and their business, and becoming friends with them. And then, when you’ve developed a strong relationship with them, it can be about selling your services – or buying theirs – but you’ll both be doing it because you like and trust each other, not because you feel you have to.

The secret to successful networking is all in the way you approach it. If you go to a meeting with one aim in mind – to sell your services and make money – then I’m sorry, but it’s not going to work! Very few people like to be pressured into a sale and in fact, you’ll be pushing people away rather than engaging with them!

Networking is not a quick fix solution with instant success; it’s more a slow burner that takes time and effort and commitment to work. Going to one meeting is not going to win you business  – you need to stick at it, go back to meetings regularly and get to know people. It won’t be long before you start building relationships and developing your network. Then, when the time is right and people need what you can offer, you’ll find them coming to you – not because you’re the cheapest, but because they understand your business and they like and trust you.

So next time you go to a business networking event, don’t go thinking about making sales. Go with an open mind, a smile on your face and a desire to meet new people … and then sit back and watch your business network grow.